Getting To Grips With Strap-Ons

The other day I met someone who was completely befuddled by strapons. They didn’t get strapons for queer individuals, they certainly didn’t get it for straight couples, and the idea of strapon singles pornography or poly strapon sex would have probably blown their mind.

Their deep bemusement didn’t come from a place of hate, judgement, or prejudice. Rather, they simply had never considered a sex life that involved strapons and so had never really formed an idea of purpose and application for such items.

And this got me wondering; just how many people are as equally in the dark?

What Is A Strapon?

A strapon is, put simply, a device used to allow an individual to strap something (typically of a sexual and interactive nature) on to their body.

Strapons will typically be for the genital area, and will be made to fit in such a way, but you can get chin strapons, knee strapons, and all sorts.

Basically, if you want to fuck someone with some area of your body then there’s likely a strapon for it.

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Why Use A Strapon?

Using a strapon might seem strange if you’ve never found a function for them in your love life, but that doesn’t mean that a strapon is functionless, nor that you couldn’t add it to your sexual repertoire.

Strapons are great for individuals who want to explore anal sex or pegging with a female-bodied partner. This is because, as opposed to just using an object in hand, individuals can feel closer, get more interactive, enjoy hands-free toy use, and make intuitive use of their bodies.

Some strapons also enhance pre existing genitalia, making them a fun augmentation to vary one’s sexual exploration.

Basically, a strapon is like an add-on in a video game. It’s not needed but it can provide some cool additional features.

Aren’t Strapons A ‘Gay’ Object?

No object is ‘gay.’ Some might be more prevalently used among queer individuals but this doesn’t stop them from being accessible or enjoyable to others.

The reason strapons might have a history of queer association is due to their usefulness in lesbian or non binary interactions.

But, hey, that’s just a case of common tools for common tasks. The assumptions you put on strapons should never be a barrier to enjoyment and, if they are, then you might want to consider why that’s the case bad work through it if you desire.

Can Strapons Only Be Used With A Partner?

Certainly not!

Strapons can help support strapless strapons for self administered handjobs, can be specialised to accommodate packers, or can simply be a really empowering visual tool for arousal.

As with any sexual object, it’s more about considering your needs and how products might be able to meet them.

If A Queer Person Uses A Strapon Why Don’t They Just Want/Use The ‘Real Thing’?

Sex toys and clothing are not people. They don’t offer the same psychological, emotional, or cultural association in the mind, nor do they strive too.

That’s like comparing eating pizza with a knife and fork to eating it with your hands. Neither replaces the other, they feel very different, you can appreciate both, and both have a time and a place depending on the circumstances.

Now I want a pizza-themed strapon.

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How Do I Choose A Strapon?

Intention is an important part of any choice in life, strapons included.

What you want from your strapon and what you’re going to do with it is important. Say, for example, you want a large toy, you’ll need to consider the O-ring diameter and the ability of the strapon to handle weight. If you want something that looks sexy there are strap on underwear sets. Want to pack? Make sure your strapon comes with a pouch. Like vibrators? Check for a bullet slot or an open access strapon.

Consider your choices, do your research and you’ll hopefully be a happy camper. Always make sure that you go for a company with a good returns policy though.

How Do I Introduce It To A Partner/Playmate?

Conversation and communication, as always.

A good start is to ask what your partner feels about strapons in general; if they have any experiences with them, if they have any apprehensions, or if it’s been a fantasy of theirs.

How your partner or playmate feels about strapons and prior experience will massively change things, but always promote the fact that you want strapons to be an experience that you get to enjoy together.

So That’s It!

If you were the type of person who was unsure of strapons then hopefully now you feel more informed, and maybe even curious to try them yourselves.

And, if you were already acquainted, maybe you’ve gained a few new ideas here, or can show it to someone who is not too sure themselves.

Strapons are a brilliantly diverse sexual tool and giving them a chance is always worth a try.

If completely unsure you can always watch content of others using strapons prior to experimenting too, or maybe you gain pleasure purely from watching strapon use but that, my lovelies, is an article for another day.