How To Spice Up Your Strap On Sex Sessions

When I initially tried strap-on sex with my girlfriend, the intimacy and intensity of the sensation were more than enough to hook us, but like with any sexual activity, familiarity and repetition can dampen the lust. Never one to settle for less and a staunch believer in the adage that variety is the spice of life, I set out to find new methods to spice up our pegging sessions and, in turn, find new ways to raise our arousal to new heights. Let’s look at some of the ways you may make your strap-on sex sessions more interesting.

Tips for the person wearing the strap-on:

The premise is that when pegging your partner while wearing the strap-on, you will receive relatively little physical stimulation, which makes sense in theory.
After all, you’re essentially buckling your crotch into a harness and manoeuvring your body into postures that make it difficult to reach, let alone pleasure, your own genitals.
The beauty of strap-on sex, on the other hand, is being able to penetrate your partner while still having both hands free to provide additional stimulation, connection, and warmth, so with a little inventiveness and a few changes here and there, you can drastically improve your pegging experience.

Let’s begin with the strap-on harness.

There are many various styles available, and many producers have thought about the wearer’s pleasure. There are open crotch harnesses (jock strap harnesses, for example) that provide direct, unobstructed access to the genitals, as well as lingerie-style harnesses with compartments incorporated into the gusset area, such as the Spare Parts Sasha.
Small clitoral sex toys, such as bullet vibrators, can be stored in these pockets. When buying a strap-on harness, keep an eye out for these choices.

Of course, harnesses without the aforementioned features can still be tried out. To hold a sex toy in place, use the strapping material from harnesses that do conceal the genitals (such as the thong style or lingerie style harness). You could use some harnesses to hold a flat-based dildo, a butt plug inside you, or even a clitoral vibrator against your body, depending on the strength and grip of the material. You might believe that open-crotch harnesses aren’t suitable for this type of play, but you can achieve a similar effect by wearing a pair of tight-fitting underwear below the harness.

Getting To Grips With Strap-Ons

Experimentation is key.

It is also critical that you maintain your current position. Certain positions make it considerably more difficult to access your genitals. He on top is a good example of this.
Unless you have particularly long arms, his body and thighs will just get in the way, and his thighs will squeeze your own legs together anyhow. The spoons position allows you to reach down between your legs, but it requires you to raise your leg to gain access, which can soon become exhausting. Doggy style and my personal favourite, them on their back with a pillow under their butt, while I kneel between their legs, are the most successful positions for self-pleasure in my experience. While maintaining eye contact, this position allows you to reach down between your own legs or reach out to stimulate their genitals.

It can be difficult to adequately delight yourself even after finding the perfect strap-on and discovering positions that allow for easier access. If you’re anything like me, you’ll find it tough to keep a rhythmic thrusting action while also attempting to stroke yourself. This is where sex toys come in, and using couple’s sex toys like the We-Vibe 4 and the Lelo Tiani is one of the easiest and most fun methods to stimulate your own genitals during strap-on sex. Because one section is put into the vagina and the other curves over your vulva, these c-shaped  vibrators deliver a dual stimulation to your clitoris.

Another sex toy and a version of the couple’s vibrator – the remote operated love egg gives me a lot of pleasure during strap-on play. (A typical example is the Lelo Lyla.)
These oval-shaped vibrators can be put into your vaginal canal before strapping on your strap-on harness, and they will offer vibrations and stimulation to your g-spot as you thrust, move, and even squeeze around them. Love eggs can be used to stimulate your clitoris in the same manner that bullet vibrators do, and because of their small size, they typically fit into the pockets found on certain harnesses. If your harness doesn’t have pockets, simply use the straps to keep the sex toy in place, or wear a pair of tight-fitting underwear underneath.

As you might expect, being able to control your love egg (or any other sex toy) remotely is a significant benefit during strap-on sex, because changing patterns manually becomes much more difficult after the harness is mounted. It’s so much easier to click with a small controller, and I’m sure I don’t have to tell you how thrilling it can be to transfer the remote to your spouse and let them control your enjoyment as you revel in theirs.

 

Strap-On Q&A – Some Helpful Advice

Spicing it up for the receiver:

We’ve shown that the person wearing the harness can have fun and spice up their strap-on experience, but what about the one getting the pleasure?
Even if the recipient appears to be having a good time, there are still a few things you may do to give them fresh sensations during the session.

The strap-on dildo is the first thing that comes to mind. These dildos come in a variety of sizes, shapes, and materials, and choosing the proper size is vital for comfort and ease of usage, but texture and stiffness of the material should also be considered. Softer materials will adhere to the body more, feel gentler, and create a more’realistic’ feeling, whereas highly textured, stiff materials will feel rather intense and oppressive. You should also think about the psychological aspects of the situation.  If you or your partner fantasise about being penetrated by a genuine penis, purchasing a dildo that looks lifelike or is intended to ejaculate will enhance the experience. Increase the fantasy, and you’ll have a better time for both of you.

We all know that lubricant is essential for anal intercourse, but most of us don’t think about how our lubricant choice affects the experience. Because they don’t dry out soon and provide a silky soft buffer that lessens friction, silicone or oil-based lubricants are among the best for anal sex. Vaginal penetration is best achieved with silicone and water-based lubricants. However, you should invest in certain specialty lubricants that cause cooling, heat, or tingling sensations on the skin for a truly unique experience. Always perform a little patch test first to verify a pleasant sensation, and then apply a few drops to the dildo, vagina, or anus before penetrating.

The Sensual Side to Strap-On Sex

Place your dildo in the fridge or a basin of icy cold water for five minutes before using. (Do not put the dildo in the freezer.) If your spouse wants a warmer sensation, simply submerge the dildo in some hot (not boiling) water before playing.

I propose obtaining a vibrating dildo to use in your strap-on harness if you want to really ratchet up the intensity that he or she feels on their prostate or g-spot. Remote-controlled vibrating dongs, dildos with a hole in the base into which you can insert a bullet vibrator

and even strapless strap-ons (the latter are also great for providing internal stimulation for both partners at the same time) are the most common options for strap-on play, but if you already have a favourite strap-on dildo and want to experiment with vibration, you could always invest in a vibrating cock ring and attach it to the base. If you want to use this for anal sex, make sure you get a hefty cock ring like the Lelo Bo. You don’t want to take the chance of losing the ring inside the anus.

 

I advocate including electro stimulation into your strap-on sessions for the bold among you who want to try something completely different. Electro stimulation uses pads, rings, and probes to deliver a tingling electrical current that feels like vibrations, and these devices can produce a wide range of sensations, from a moderate tickle to a powerful buzz. Some gadgets, such as the Electrostim Flick, allow two people to build a circuit between their bodies so that they can both benefit from the stimulation. When you use an electro stim device like this, every touch becomes a tingling pleasure.

But the biggest advise I can give you is to never be scared to try new things, laugh together, love one other, and learn together. Approach each session with an open mind with the goal of discovering what both intellectually and physically pleases you and your partner. Your strap-on sex sessions will be not only mutually satisfying, but also pleasurable for both of you.

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