The Sensual Side to Strap-On Sex

When I type the words “Strap-on sex” or “pegging”

in my search engine, I get a slew of porn clips, sexual stories, and educational advice.
As I scroll through the results, I notice that the strap-on is frequently depicted as a powerful tool used by dominant females to make a male submissive feel powerless, emasculated, or humiliated.

In some cases, the male appears to be willing to put up with this act (despite pain and clenched teeth) in order to fully submit.
Now, there are those of us (including myself) who find it highly erotic to use a strap-on in this way, and there is certainly nothing wrong with that dynamic, but with so little information surrounding the sensual, intimate side of strap-on sex, it’s easy to see how the idea of pegging can intimidate those who have no interest in Bondage, BDSM or power exchange dynamics.

This image may be enough to turn some people off, which is unfortunate, but today I’d want to talk about the pleasurable side of strap-on sex and why you should consider adding it to your sexual arsenal.

Getting To Grips With Strap-Ons

Strap-on Sex Can be Enjoyed by Anyone

So, to reassure the doubtful, strap-on sex, like any other sexual inclination, can be enjoyed by anyone, in any type of relationship, with any type of dynamic, and you should indulge in a way that titillates you and your partner, not the rest of the world.
After all, sex should be pleasurable.
Finding the truth behind the myths and seeing through stereotypes can be difficult, but when it comes down to it, that is all they are.
It is simply a new experience, a tool that provides new sensations, to indulge in strap-on sex sessions. It does not “make” you anything (homosexual, submissive, or anything else you do not feel you are), it is simply a new experience, a tool that provides new sensations.
Tender, passionate, and pain-free strap-on sex is possible.
This is what I call sensual pegging.

The Sensual Side to Strap-On Sex

The word “sensual” is defined as “arousing gratification of the senses and physical, especially sexual, pleasure,” according to the dictionary.
When we engage many senses (sight, touch, sound, taste, and smell), we have some of our most intense sexual experiences and most memorable memories, and it’s simple to see why so many people like exquisite strap-on sex.
Multiple senses can be stimulated at the same time with the harness.
Let’s dig a little deeper.

Sight:

The strap-on harness gives a wonderful feast for the eyes. Visual information plays a big part in building our arousal (this is especially true for guys), and it delivers a veritable feast for the eyes.
This feeling is stimulated from the minute you put on your harness, and it doesn’t (and shouldn’t) stop there.
In fact, the strap-on can be used in a variety of ways to visually tease your lover.

Start by deciding on the overall appearance (or fantasy) you want to achieve, and then pair your strap-on harness with some lovely lingerie or a stunning clothing to complete the look.
(Naked also works for a lot of people.)

Dressing for the occasion might boost your confidence and urge you to go further into new roles, heightening the dream.
I also suggest visualising the strap-on dildo as a real limb between your legs, as this thinking offers up new, imaginative possibilities.

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For example, try walking around the room, allowing your partner to watch as the dildo
bobs and juts out suggestively, then let them watch as you apply lubricant and begin to massage and caress the dildo, just like you would a real penis. If the idea appeals to you, you might want to consider investing in an ejaculating dildo for more visual impact.
When it comes to penetration, aim to get into positions where your partner can see you rolling and thrusting your hips.
Most individuals are enthralled by this very sexy movement.
Don’t forget to make eye contact from time to time as a final flourish.

Pro tip: When you remove one of the senses, it amplifies the others. If you want to elevate your
partner’s sense of touch, for example, consider blindfolding them beforehand.

Touch:

While it is possible to penetrate your partner without using a strap-on harness (by using your fingers and toys), there are some elements that can only be savoured with a strap-on harness attached.
One of these incredible advantages is the ability to penetrate while keeping both hands free.
You can caress and pleasure your spouse in a variety of ways with your hands free to wander, and different postures allow varied possibilities to touch.
Full body contact and cuddling are possible in some positions, such as spoons and missionary, which feels more intimate than sitting between your partner’s legs with a sex toy.

A strap-on can be used in a variety of ways to tease and tantalise your partner’s sense of touch.

Tap the dildo against their thighs and buttocks, slide it along their body, or even press it on their body as you embrace.
You may ask them to stroke the dildo as if it were a real penis, and then kiss, lick, and suck it if you’re feeling brave.
Apply a tingling or chilly lube to the dildo before insertion to heighten the sensations, or get out the massage oils for a truly tactile, full body experience.

Taste:

You may be perplexed as to how the sensation of taste may be created during pleasurable strap-on sex, but it can be done with a little inventiveness.
It’s considerably more difficult to caress your lover when you don’t have a free hand, and it’s even more difficult to kiss and tongue your partner intimately when you’re sat between their legs.
Of course, using a strap-on makes providing oral sex more difficult, but it also allows you to indulge in some passionate kissing, neck nibbling, and licking.
Mouth-to-skin contact has a very intimate sensation to it.

Sound:

Communication is not only enticing (think of the time someone whispered something hot into your ear and you melted into a molten pool of want), but it also allows you to learn about each other’s desires.
Knowing what your spouse like and dislikes can help you adjust your sessions to their preferences.
If you already love nasty discussion, let it be known during your session by speaking up.
If you’re hesitant to express your desire verbally, remember that a sensual moan, sigh, or whimper can convey a lot of information.
Begin by asking questions or telling your partner your opinions to help you feel more comfortable speaking in the bedroom.

Smell:

The strap-on allows you to penetrate your partner in positions that allow for intimacy, which is a crucial but often ignored aspect of sexual stimulation.
The ability to hold each other close allows you to inhale the aroma of your partner’s hot skin, perfume, and kisses.
Use scented massage oils to stroke or slide up against your partner’s body during penetration to heighten this sense.

The most important thing to remember from this post is that strap-on sex may be whatever you want.
Some people want it hard and animalistic, while others prefer it sensual and playful.
Pegging has the unique ability to deliver both physical and psychological pleasure, and you can take advantage of this by utilising the strap-on harness to stimulate a range of senses and fulfil a variety of desires, resulting in mind-blowing results.