When a person is kept in a heightened level of arousal for an extended period of time, but the orgasm-inducing release of orgasm is denied, orgasm denial (also known as orgasm control and orgasm erotic sexual denial) is used.
My Beginner’s Guide to Chastity and Orgasm Denial answers the most often asked questions about this kink and why so many men and women are drawn to it.
It’s the psychological high from playing the tease and denial game that motivates most players to go all out with their aspirations.
Although some of us may have similar fantasies, our preferences may differ slightly in the specifics of our fantasies.
For example, individuals who prefer to be given a specific date for their next release and those who receive their thrills from not knowing are two different types of orgasm denialists.
In order to get the most out of your orgasm denial sessions, you and your partner need to continually talking about what works for you and what doesn’t and then customise your tease and denial sessions to meet your needs.
Heightened state of arousal
Sit down with your spouse and think about what aspects of your chastity or orgasm control experiences genuinely pique your interest.
Some fetishists enjoy submitting and fantasise about having their orgasms controlled by another person or being told when and in what fashion they are allowed pleasure.
Other lovers of orgasm control may want to be deprived of their sexual pleasures for months or even years in order to get the most out of the rush they get from being kept in an elevated state of arousal.
There are individuals who like being frustrated or humiliated, while others prefer orgasm suppression alone or in a long-distance relationship.
As you can see, the fantasy of orgasm denial has a wide range of complexities, therefore teasing should be tailored to the individual.
In other words, there isn’t a “Single Correct Way.”
It’s important to note, however, that in order to keep the arousal levels high, or the excitement alive, it’s necessary to constantly come up with new and exciting ways to do so.
Tease and denial take some creative thinking to keep the flames burning, by their very nature.
In light of this, I decided to write an essay with a variety of suggestions to help you and your partner get the most out of your orgasm denial experience.
A major issue was that I had so many ideas that this essay started to turn into a novel.
The following slider contains numerous ideas that you can use in your own sessions, which is why I decided to include it in this post.
This post may not be for everyone, but I’m sure you’ll walk away with a slew of new ideas to keep your creative juices flowing (or not flowing, as the case may be).
My final piece of advise is to avoid making any tease and denial game too difficult or time-consuming to follow.
It’s going to get old fast.
Finally, don’t forget that there is only one perfect way to enjoy chastity and orgasm denial, and that is the one that works best for you and your lover together.
If you are considering purchasing a chastity device, take a look at my chastity device reviews, as these may be able to guide you in the right direction.