One of the most typical needs (particularly among beginners) when purchasing a chastity device is that it be entirely secure.
Most people seek an inescapable device because it enhances or relates to the delusion that they are actually at the mercy of their keyholder and that they have no choice but to remain locked up and denied if he or she is not available.
However, fantasy rarely matches reality, and many people can get disillusioned with the idea of the chastity device once they realise they can probably get away with it.
There is no such thing as a 100% secure chastity device
for 100% of men, and many mass-produced “one-size-fits-all” devices will be escapable for a huge percentage of men.
When you think about it further, this makes sense.
Male genitalia differs (sometimes greatly) from one man to the next.
I’m not just talking about the length of the penis here; I’m also talking about the circumference of the shaft at various places, whether he’s a grower or a shower, and if he’s cut or uncut.
Furthermore, the penis is highly flexible, allowing it to be squashed, squeezed, stretched, and compressed out of even the tiniest of gaps and rings.
It has the ability to retract inside the body.
That’s how it’s supposed to work.
Of course, the testicles and scrotum, which can also vary in size and shape, are comparable.
Some men’s testicles sit high and tight, while others’ sag low.
As the weather changes, most men’s scrotum tightens and relaxes.
With such variances, a one-size-fits-all device will struggle to comfortably and securely suit every guy.
Rather than being disappointed by your inability to wiggle free from your chastity device, I propose focusing on the true meaning of chastity.
You can’t compel someone to be chaste (fantasy play apart), and it should be a shared experience that both of you have agreed upon.
The chastity device should serve as a continual, pleasant reminder of your situation and your desire to please and obey the keyholder.
This necessitates a level of mutual trust and honesty, and if you find yourself lying or withholding information from your keyholder (by secretly masturbating or failing to follow the rules), you may need to re-evaluate the terms of your chastisement with your keyholder and discuss whether chastity is right for you.
Chastity and orgasm denial can be enjoyed in a variety of ways, and you should experiment to see what suits you best.
For additional detail, see my “Beginners Guide to Chastity and Orgasm Denial” post, or if you just need some new ideas, see my “Orgasm Denial Games and Ideas” post.
Rather than concentrating on constructing an impenetrable cage, your primary goal should be to find a comfy one.
This is especially true if you want to be chaste for a long time.
Many people feel that choosing the smallest, tightest-fitting device will prevent them from escaping, however this is detrimental in terms of long-term chastity.
If you have to take the device off and leave it off for long periods of time due to discomfort or pain, the chastity device’s psychological potency will be diminished, and you may lose interest.
It’s not easy to size oneself for a comfortable, long-term chastity device.
It takes a lot of trial and error for most men to find the best device for them.
This can be aggravating and pricey, as chastity devices are not inexpensive.
There are a few pointers to assist lessen the risks of buying the wrong size, but even these aren’t foolproof, and accidents can happen.
Measuring for a comfortable chastity device:
The size of the primary ring is the most critical measurement to acquire as precise as possible.
(The ring that surrounds your testicles and penis) An inappropriate fit here can lead to a slew of issues down the road.
The cage will slip down or fall off entirely if this ring is too large.
You will experience discomfort and suffering, as well as fluid retention and a cutoff of the blood flow to your genitals, if the ring is too small.
The optimal fit is one that is snug enough to prevent slippage but loose enough to allow blood to flow for you to feel at ease.
There’s a big difference between having “blue balls” (a slang phrase for a pain in your testicles caused by a lack of orgasm) and having blue testicles.
If your testicles are getting red, purple, or blue, the primary ring is too tight for you; remove it right away and try the next size up.
Using a tape measure to achieve an accurate measurement for the primary ring is quite difficult.
Some individuals propose measuring your genitals by tying a thread around them, although this isn’t ideal.
The best approach I’ve found for getting an exact measurement is to go to a sex shop or a hardware store and buy a variety of rings, starting at about 2 inches in diameter and decreasing by 14 of an inch.
Make sure the rings are firm (metal or plastic) because elastic materials will result in an erroneous result.
You should also choose smooth, rounded rings that will not irritate your skin while worn.
Working your way down the sizes until you find one that fits tightly but doesn’t cause any discomfort, redness, or swelling in your genitals, start with the largest and work your way down until you find one that fits snugly but doesn’t cause any pain, redness, or swelling.
When you’ve narrowed it down to a few rings, try them on for a few days (even at night) to get a better sense of how they feel in different situations.
Some mass-produced devices, such as the CB6000, include multiple main rings of varied sizes, which may assist many men in finding a satisfactory fit, although this is not guaranteed (you could be between sizes).
(Note: Erections, especially nocturnal erections, can be uncomfortable because your genitals enlarge and the ring tightens.)
You may have some mild discomfort during erections with the correct size ring, but you should not be in pain.
It’s time to change the ring if you get an acute burning under your testicles or a deep hurting in your testicles and stomach.)
Measuring for the Cage Length:
The length of the cock cage is somewhat important.
A cage that is just long enough for the tip of your penis to come to rest at the end of the cage is ideal.
Your glans may bulge painfully through the end hole, and your penis may bunch up at the base if your cage is too tiny.
The foreskin of uncircumcised males may protrude from the device’s end and be squeezed.
A cage that is too lengthy may not cause any serious problems, but it may cause urine to splash within the device, causing moisture and stench to build up.
You can use a ruler to measure the length of your flaccid penis for a chastity device by placing it on the bottom of your flaccid penis and measuring from tip to base.
If you press the ruler into your scrotum, you’ll get an inaccurate measurement.
Allow the ruler to make contact with the skin at that location.
When taking this measurement, you should be entirely flaccid, but not “retracted inside the body because it’s chilly or terrified.”
Take this measurement numerous times during the day to obtain your most frequent length for reliable results.
When you’ve found your measurement, subtract 14 to 12 inches from the total, and you’ll have your optimum cage length.
Measuring for the Cage diameter:
The cage diameter is less important to measure, but a proper fit has some advantages, such as better comfort and reduced mess inside the cage when you pee.
Some people advocate a cage that hugs the penis, making skin contact all the way around but not being too tight.
Personally, I think the cage should be a little looser because it allows air to circulate.
A clammy, sweaty penis produces more scent, and dark, wet conditions might lead to infection.
Keep in mind that your penis will naturally pull back or retract into your body during movement or under certain conditions, and if the cage was too tight to begin with, your penis may not be able to move forward again, causing it to stay bunched up.
Skin can bulge or become trapped and pinched as a result of bunching.
I suppose it’s your choice whether you prefer a tight-fitting cage or one with some wiggle room, but we prefer the latter, even if it means he can stand semi-erect.
The Importance of Spacers:
The distance between the main ring and the cage part is another key factor to keep in mind.
You will be given a few spacers with most mass-produced trapped ball devices, and these small pieces are utilised to expand or decrease the spacing between the ring and the cage.
The reason this dimension is crucial (especially for those looking for a secure device) is that these seemingly insignificant tiny spacers can frequently make it difficult to remove the cage.
The narrower the space between the cage and the main ring, the more difficult it is to get your penis and testicles out.
Choosing the smallest spacer right away, however, may cause some discomfort.
It’s all about getting the tightest, most comfortable fit possible.
If getting a safe chastity device is still a priority for you, there are a few things you can do to assist lessen the possibilities of your chastity device being broken.
One of the first options is to get a custom-built chastity device that is made to your exact specifications, but even this is not a guarantee (I refer you back to my comment about how flexible the penis can be).
Another solution is to buy one of the many add-ons that try to reduce or prevent you from dragging your penis backwards (be sure the one you purchase fits your specific gadget).
(Chastity belts may also make it more difficult to slide your penis out by preventing the cage from sliding forward.)
The KSD-G3 (a wedge-shaped piece of plastic that helps avoid pull out in CB devices) is a simple example of an add-on.
Deep urethral plugs and even options to secure a Prince Albert piercing are included in some cages.
When considering whether or not to acquire these add-ons, think carefully; the last thing you want is to have to remove your device due to tearing, irritation, or infection.
In the next instalment of my chastity series, I’ll go over these add-ons in greater depth.