Beginners Guide to Couples Sex Toys

Rule number one when it comes to having sex in a relationship is to never allow complacency to take root; doing it the same way every single time you have sex just won’t cut the mustard, and spicing up your life between the sheets with sex toys will keep your sex life fresh and interesting, with you chomping at the bit for more…

Novices

It’s all about learning more about each other and establishing what you both like in a lot more detail than you would normally. Start off slow when you’re a novice, and then graduate to the big leagues when you’re ready to trust and try more…

Starting off…

Build your sexual foundation on sexy underwear in order to really get your partner in the mood, and make yourself feel like a sexy object of his desire.

Take a bullet and either get your man to take charge or give him a little private show; either way he will be dying to push you further and your discreet little bullet will become your new best friend in the bedroom.

If you want to step things up a notch, go for a vibrator and look for an option that allows you to choose your speed and power; by having options available, you can go for the setting that suits your mood, or you can even give your partner the chance to make the choice for you.

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Playing…

It’s not all about having the sex toys used on you, so don’t be scared to take your bullet and run it all over your man’s body, as well as his cock and balls. Apply pressure to the sensitive areas and make him pay attention when you do so – he will be like putty in your hands.

To keep him going after all the excitement, put on a cock ring and enjoy him being harder for longer. If you want to really feel the benefit, go for a vibrating option that stimulates your clit as well as keeps him going.

Seasoned players

Once you’re past the novice hurdles, you’re going to find yourself much more comfortable in expressing exactly what you like, and how you like it.

But what about keeping it fresh and starting to explore? This is one of the best bits of sex toys in the bedroom…

Starting off…

Go for a dildo and hand it over to your man; tell them you’re all theirs and let them take complete control.

You’d be surprised just how much your man will like having you at his mercy, and you will absolutely love just how excited relinquishing power leaves you.

Playing…

Feeling brave? Go for some love eggs and hand the controls to your man. Feeling extra brave? Step out in public and try and keep a straight face, before heading back home and really enjoying each other.

Once you’re home, swap the love egg for something like a rampant rabbit and show your man exactly what you like, and exactly where you like it, before swapping it for the real thing and even going for a butt plug at the same time. Which one of you uses the plug is totally up to you!

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Experts

Things are getting serious now… you’ve done the nicey nice stuff, you’ve stepped it up a notch, and now you’re ready to go all the way with the toys that really push some buttons.

Starting off…

Anal play isn’t anything new, in fact, it’s all part of your routine. But how do you really get yourselves to the next level?

Simple – strap ons.

Harness up and take control by bending your man over and thrusting away.

Not really something he’s into? That’s fine – just get him to strap himself up and experiment with double penetration, because two is always better than one, and there is no such thing as greedy when it comes to fun in the bedroom.

Playing…

Give and take and find out exactly what he wants, and where he wants it. If the strap on is a bit much at first, encourage butt plugs and beads in order to ease him into the fun of it all. He can bead you up, you can bead him up, it’s all about give and take!

If you still like to incorporate a vibe into playtime, go for a wand to step your judders up a notch; this is no bullet, darling, it’s a lot more powerful than that, and your orgasms will follow suit…

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