Going Down? A Guide to Blow Jobs

When you’re with your friends, especially when it’s a group of close women, you get to talking about sex. I know I have done this many times, asking how would you do this better, what do you do with that and so on.

Guys, don’t be naive, your woman will discuss her sex life (maybe not in vivid detail) but to an extent to get her point across. Women, the same goes for you, men talk and when they do, it goes into detail. OK OK, this may not be 100% true with some but I have come across men and women, who have asked me in-depth questions and what do I think is best.

I’m no expert in the field of sex, I only have my experiences to go by but then there are a few fair old years built up of that Some not so good, others were very good.

The key to a good experience is communication; tell your partner what you like, what you don’t like. If they are not hitting that spot, give them encouraging direction. After all, if we didn’t tell you anything, how do you know what you are doing is giving your partner pleasure?

What’s my advice for a good blow job?

Be excited! A killjoy in the bedroom is a killjoy full stop. If you are uncomfortable, your partner will be too. So yes, be excited, be confident and get in there!

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Take your time, build the suspense up, just don’t dive right in there! For instance, tease him with your thoughts. You could lean in close and whisper in his ear what you are going to do to him, when you get home, whilst stroking the inside of his leg, right up to his crutch region. You can easily do this in a public area, without drawing unwanted attraction.

As soon as you walk through your front door (assuming no one else is in the house, or the next bit could be awkward), take him by surprise and take the lead. Doesn’t matter if he likes to be the dominant one in the sexual department, this is your area and time to please, so don’t be afraid to take that chance.

Pin him to the wall, push him down on the sofa or have your back to the wall, whatever takes your fancy right at that moment.

Sensations are a big part of a man’s sexual heightening, so make sure you know if or where he has any soft/sensitive spots and try to work around them.

Once those trousers are removed, run your finger tips over his thighs, gently caressing his balls as you make your way to his rising penis. Butterfly kisses around his penis, seems to be something my fella loves, he says it’s all part of the build up and being teased gets him harder, faster.

Take his penis into your hand, cupping the top part, so the underside of his shaft is showing (remember to treat his manhood with care, don’t hold too firmly at this point) and run the tip of your tongue slowly up his shaft, giving him a quick upwards glance. Don’t leave your free hand out, you could be holding his arse cheeks and gently pushing him into you or his thigh. Take another run up with the tip of your tongue, licking up his cock and twist yourself around, so that you are slowly licking up on to the top side of his dick. Then as you get to his head, tease the tip area with your tongue and then softly place your mouth over his head. It will help if you can let out a little bit of saliva, ensuring that his head isn’t dry, which can cause sensitivity. Go down on him, about half of his dick. Don’t suck yet, no pressure, just a gently intake into your mouth and move back up again. Make sure his dick is moist, if it isn’t wet enough, do this again.

Once you have him fully hard and wet, take the top of his head into your mouth……slowly. This is where you can tease his head with the tip of your tongue. Then when you are ready, take that big gulp and take his full hard cock, into your wet mouth. As you come up, twist your mouth, in a cork screw motion but not to the extent that you’re sucking an ice cold drink on a hot day! Do this gently.

I find holding the base of his cock between your thumb and finger, can help steady his dick, whilst you are in motion.

Use your hands on his dick too, as you’re coming up, also wank the base to the bottom of your lips area, with a little pressure. Maybe chuck in a little tickle of the ball’s too.

Every so often, come back up and swirl your tongue around his head and upper dick area, whilst pumping his hard cock with your other hand.

If your man is VERY generous in the trouser department, you may want to jerk him off, whilst giving him head and apply a little pressure with your hand. That’s if you can not take his full girth.

If you are having trouble building saliva up, deep throating and heating your gag reflex, will cause your mouth to salvia but be careful because that part could go embarrassingly wrong.

My fella does say that he appreciates a woman who can deep throat and take her time, occasionally letting him know by a cheeky stare, that you are enjoying this as much as he is.

It’s not always about the cock though, he has a pair of balls and a very sensitive part of skin between his balls and anal region. This is called the perineal and it is a part of his body that you need to involve in, during foreplay. This could be a teasing way of lightly stroking this area or applying a tiny bit of pressure with a thumb, around the time that he is about to cum.

Don’t be afraid to ask your man, what he likes and wants, during foreplay. Would he like you to use a food like body chocolate, cream, I’ve even talked to a man that loves honey rubbed on his perineal area and to have this licked off, during foreplay.

Some men like blow jobs to be hard and fast, others like the feeling of the mouth around their dicks to be feather-like, other men just want a mix up of it all. So yes, communication is the key!

If you can not build up saliva or can not deep throat, use lubricant, flavored, normal, water-based or silicone, it’s up to you.

Remember that giving head is not a chore but a pleasure.

Basically, anything goes but most of all, enjoy your experience. After all, we are all still on a journey of sexual learning, I know I am!